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The Undeclared War On Gay Marriage

A CIVIL WAR ON CIVIL RIGHTS?
For reasons unrevealed at the moment, religious advocates have invested a great deal of time, effort, energy and resources into preventing the legalization of gay marriage. But has anyone ever stopped to ask; why preventing this legalization (in the United States) is so important? To date, the only rational explanation I have heard is the view… “They make me feel uncomfortable. I don’t want to see two guys being intimate in public.” Incidentally, the sight of Mormons and Jehovah Witnesses out in public make a whole lot of people feel uncomfortable. But for some reason, I have never heard that reasoning directed towards two women.

Interestingly enough, Lesbian couples often experience heterosexual guys drooling over them while verbalizing manage tois fantasies. Now, let me get this straight [no pun intended]; it’s OK for homosexuals to satisfy heterosexual sex fantasies (and entertain us in all sorts of ways on TV and in movies)… but it’s NOT OK for them to legally wed? Gay marriage aside, this sounds like EXPLOITATION to me! And the view that homosexuality is an abomination is not even relevant. Is heterosexual prostitution any less of an abomination? Yet, heterosexual prostitutes can legally wed simply because they are heterosexual. And (heterosexual) murderers can get married while still serving a life-sentence in prison! Am I beginning to hear the words… DOUBLE STANDARD? Is it even fair for any religious group to impose their beliefs on everyone else? Especially, if the issue at hand is a Civil War regarding Civil Rights… not religion.

IT’S A SMOKE SCREEN
For the sake of argument; consider the view that intimate homosexuals make homophobes uncomfortable. SO WHAT? And that’s the real problem! They need a bigger reason than that! This is why they transform gay marriage into a religious matter. And everyone all of a sudden becomes a devout Christian. Even though the Bible says nothing about marriage (i.e. who can or who cannot). Organizations like The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, (i.e. Mormons) will do practically anything (including LIE, CHEAT and DECEIVE) to get their way. This is some how OK for them; everyone else will spend eternity in flames! The civil rights of homosexuals are non-existent and a civil war must be waged… without anyone noticing. And to make matters worse, there are more homosexuals in the world than there are Mormons! Don’t believe the small percentages biased people quote from biased surveys based on faulty data!

TRADITIONAL DEFINITIONS
I’ve heard the view, “We must protect the traditional definition of marriage!” In other words, legalizing gay marriage would some how taint said definition. Do we speak ENGLISH in the United States? Plan-B is a Civil War with words! Can you name one English word that has not undergone a series of definition changes over the last 400 years? Why does the word “marriage” all of a sudden need protecting? Is that even a Civil Right? As a matter of fact, this particular word has already undergone a few dozen changes! Why? Because marriage is not exclusively a religious matter. Ergo, you have to be a little more specific when you say, “traditional.” And the following are a few of those traditions in marriage:

Civil (a wedding performed by a Government Official);
Common Law (a verbal agreement to become husband and wife);
Monogamy (the state of having one sexual partner at a time);
Polygamy (a person has more than one spouse, consent);
-Polygyny (husband has several wives);
-Polyandry (wife has several husbands);
Bigamy (a person has more than one spouse, non-consent);
Arranged (two families decide; a son and daughter from each will wed);
Child (an adult legally weds a child under age 15);
Morganatic (no inheritance to wife and children);
Hypergyny (a spouse with a higher social status);
Sogyny (a spouse with same status);
Open (spouses consent to sexual relationships outside marriage);
Henogamy (one male-child in family can marry);
Line (adding a new spouse in time, down the line);
Trial (couple lives together temporarily to see how it goes)!

And the list goes on and on and on! Even though many of these types of marriages are not legal in the United States, my point is; over the course of time, heterosexuals have RE-DEFINED MARRIAGE so many times it ain’t even funny! What difference would adding “gay marriage” to this very long list of traditions really make? The truth of the matter; heterosexuals can do what ever comes to mind when it comes to holy matrimony.

THE SANCTITY OF DIVORCE
I have also heard the view; “We have to protect the sanctity of Holy Matrimony!” In all honesty, if you wanted to do that, you would invest all of that time, effort, energy and resources into challenging the Sanctity of Divorce! Gay marriage has very little to do with it! Religious views aside, according to The State of Our Unions 2005 (a report issued by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University [2006-9 available online]), 37% of American children grow up with exclusively one parent due to divorce. In new situations where parents had Joint-Custody in 2005, 44% of custodial mothers and 56% of custodial fathers were either separated or divorced. And there were only 1,080,000 divorces that year. But they were not necessarily from among the 2,250,000 weddings that took place the same year. So why start a civil war on the civil rights of homosexuals?

The view hypothetical; if 1,080,000 out of 2,250,000 ended in divorce in 2005, that divorce rate would be 48%. This is why the speculated Divorce Rate averages 50%. And that count does not include all the Legal Separations. However, in all probability 20% (450,000) of those 2,250,000 marriages will end in divorce within 5-years; and 50% within 10-years. Bottom line; the Holy Matrimony homophobic heterosexuals claim they want to protect so bad is primarily endangered by heterosexual marriage… not gay marriage! Ergo, marriage in the United States among heterosexuals is not as pretty a picture as anti-gay marriage advocates purport. In all probability, no more than 10% of (heterosexual) marriages in the United States will last a lifetime. So, why do anti-gay advocates (religious or otherwise) insist on fighting a civil war on the civil rights of American citizens who happen to be gay?

Wedding Ceremony Choices – Marriage Hints For Different Types of Ceremonies

As a definition, a wedding is a ceremony with legal ramifications that cements the union of a couple, and nowadays that couple does not have to be made up of a man and a woman. A ceremony held in a church or other place of worship does not create the legal institution of marriage. Marriage, as a legally binding act, is only complete once the marriage license or other legal documents are completed and signed. The titles bridegroom and bride are used worldwide; the titles husband and wife are the usually how they are called following the ceremony.

Wedding traditions are impacted by lots of things; such as religion, race, and class that complicate the planning process. Even when people aren’t very religious, they often opt for a traditional wedding ceremony in a house of worship performed by a member of the clergy. This kind of ceremony is called a “white wedding” in the U.S., as well as in Great Britain and all of the British Commonwealth.

One unique type of wedding is a situation where two separate couples decide to wed at the same time, as in the case of siblings that are getting married and want to do a joint type of ceremony.

Traditionally, the term “destination wedding” referred to a couple getting married in a different country. Today, a destination wedding doesn’t required you to leave the country as long as your go out of your home town.

Weddings planned for a Saturday or Sunday are being seen more frequently nowadays, and in Ireland, they have been known to extend over a three-day weekend. There are other events that can be planned around a particular theme and that often happen over the course of a weekend. Guests are usually housed at the same venue where the ceremony will be held, and there’s frequently a Sunday brunch hosted by the couple to end the weekend.

As odd as it may sound, you can even use an online wedding ceremony utilizing characters of yourself to bring a sense of reality to the ceremony. There are internet companies that are dedicated to this process and are more than happy to help you with the planning phase. Another benefit of online/internet weddings is that it can be utilized to inform friends and family in other areas of the wedding.

When a couple doesn’t marry in a house of worship, they’ll often opt for a civil ceremony conducted by a justice of the peace, a judge or perhaps the local mayor. Such ceremonies would be mere legal occasions, making no reference to a divine being. It isn’t much of a concern to the folks getting married in a city hall or courtrooms due to the quick amount of time it takes to perform these ceremonies.

Hopefully after reading this, you will have a much better understanding of weddings and marriage.